How to support someone who is grieving

How to support someone who is grieving

We all cope with the loss of a loved one in our own way and while there are stages of bereavement there is no ‘normal’ way of grieving. When supporting someone who is grieving, sometimes just being there for the other person is all that’s needed, but here are some examples of how you can support them through this difficult time:

Let them know you’re there
It seems obvious, but make sure you let them know you’re there for them when they need you.

Active listening
Be prepared to listen. When we are grieving our emotions and thoughts can be jumbled or we just need to talk about what’s going on and the person we miss. You can be supportive by letting people talk and being there to comfort them. At this time, you probably won’t be able to be there physically but you can do this over the phone or using video calls. Practice active listening by nodding and acknowledging you have heard them, repeating back what you have heard to show you have heard and understood them and by asking if there is anything you can do to help them. 

Ask them
Ask them how they’re feeling – there are different stages of grief so don’t assume you know how they’re feeling. Each time you talk or interact with them, ask them how they are feeling, this will help you to support them and see how they are coping with their bereavement.

It’s the little things
Little things can mean so much to someone who is grieving. Think about whether you can do anything practical, like:

  • Sharing mealtimes over video calls
  • Cooking a meal for them (leaving it on their doorstep and in line with isolation guidelines)
  • Shopping for essentials for them
  • Help with funeral arrangements
  • Finding online support groups for them

Don’t be offended if they turn down your offer – there may be other people helping them or they may not feel that it is the right moment.

Tell them about our support services
We’re there for anyone who works, or has worked, in the automotive industry and their family dependents. They can chat to us online or call our helpline on 08081 311 333. If you need help in supporting someone, you can contact us – we’re here for you too.