How to say goodbye when you can't attend a funeral

Funerals are usually a time for people to come together in their grief – to share memories and celebrate the life of the person they have lost.

However, sometimes there are circumstances where you might not be able to attend a funeral due to ill-health, family conflicts or travel arrangements. Whatever the reason, there are ways that you can still say goodbye.

You could try:

  • writing a message or ask for something to be read out
  • recording a video to be played
  • asking if the service can be live-streamed
  • asking if photos of people who would normally be there can be placed on the empty chairs to represent everyone who would like to be there
  • holding your own memorial with a photo and a candle

If you need support, information or guidance around paying for the funeral, we’re here for you. Chat with us online or call our helpline on 08081 311 333

Find out more about how we can help here.

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